Dear Ashita,
It’s a bit sad when your friends are your husband’s friends
and life revolves around entertaining them. I guess you do need to cultivate
your own girlfriends else you tend to be in the shadow and not particularly
feeling happy about it either.
So today is Friday and I asked Shaiwal what we going to do
tonight. One of his friends is leaving for India tomorrow and I thought we
should probably have him over for dinner. Turns out the boys have already got
their plans in and they were going to meet up tonight – minus me. Don’t blame
them for that coz who would want to hang out with a woman when they could have
an all-boys session. But it did sort of hit me that I am an unwanted third
wheel and that wasn’t a good feeling at all.
When I went to India last December, I was quite lucky to
have had a chance to meet up with a couple of my school friends. Girls whom I
shared my dreams with and one in particular a best friend whom I had through 11
years of age till 19 years (a golden period for me). We went different ways
when we took different routes, she – matrimony and me – higher studies and
subsequently working life. It wasn’t that we were not interested in keeping in touch;
it was more that we were so busy trying to fit in with our new chosen lives.
So the three of us met up for a couple of hours for lunch
after 16 years and from the word go, it was as comfortable as putting on a pair
of old socks. We slipped back into using the slang that we did then, pulling each
other’s legs with complete disrespect for one another and easily sharing
confidences without worrying about censoring personal/confidential/private
bits. It was only 2 -3 hours but it was the most rejuvenating thing I did in a
long long time.
When you grow up, I don’t know if the current forwards will
still be doing the rounds, the ones on cultivating your women friends and what
a treasure they are. If it is then heed them, if not then refer to this bit of
wisdom. Meanwhile me heading off now to put you to bed and then am gonna watch
this rocking mallu movie that I have wanted to for ages.
Love you lots Kutta
